Testing Your Dream

Often, when I speak to people about their dreams for their life, their future, I am told a short, lifeless version of a person's dream, followed by all the reasons why they can't have it. "I don't have time money", "I have responsibilities", "I'm too busy". I get it! It's so much easier to think of the reasons we can't have something than to figure out how we can. Most people doubt their dream and ask, 
"Am I deserving of this dream?" "Is this too big for me?"

These are the wrong questions!!! It has been said that the quality of our life is determined by the quality of the questions we ask. We can make the choice to ask ourselves empowering questions that lift us up and get us excited and test our commitment to our dream, questions like, "Is this dream worthy of me?" and "Is this really the highest possibility for me?"

When I work with clients to define and design their dreams to create a life they would love,  I have them ask these 5 questions to help them determine if the dream they have chosen to work on is right for them, BIG enough for them. So here are the questions:

1. Does it give me LIFE? - Does your dream make you feel alive, give you goose bumps, make your heart race? - You want a YES to this question.

2. Does it align with my core values? - These are those things that are the utmost importance to you, ie family, spiritual values etc. that must be part of your dream. - You want a YES to this question.

3. Does it cause me to GROW? - Does it stretch you past your comfort zone? - You want a YES to this.

4. Does it require a power bigger than me? - Another way of asking this is "Do I know all the steps in moving forward to create this dream?" If you do, it might be a great goal, but not necessarily a dream. You want a dream that you don't have all the answers to how it's going to happen.

5. Does it have some good in it for others? - Now here's a loaded question. Many people believe their dreams are selfish, ie. I want to attract my perfect life partner. The question I would ask then is this: If you are happy, would that bring joy to other people in your life? Would the energy of you being happy rub off on others? I can pretty much guarantee this is a YES :).

In my course, The Dream Builder, I teach the 10 steps to defining and designing your dream. I will help you bridge the gap between where you are now and the dream you want to create and put strategies in place to overcome fear, procrastination and create a new way of thinking and acting for ongoing success. Some people live 90 years but many live one year 90 times. If you are ready to start thinking, acting and moving in a new, freer, fuller, more expanded direction, consider emailing me at marikavandommelen@lifemasteryinsitute.com to receive a complimentary consultation or to attend my tele-seminar on April 29th at 6:30 pm.

Valentines Day, It's all about the Love

Okay, so this is the second post I'm making this week but I was so called to write this morning as the last few days have been a process and I wanted to share both the lesson and the joy I learned from it. Once again it's Valentines Day and for the last few years my usual reaction prior to this day is to go into complete stress mode about it. To help you understand a little more about why this happens I need to tell you a little about myself.  Many of you may not know that I am a paraplegic, born with Spina Bifida. No big deal for the most part; I'm quite independent, I work (from home), I'm married and have a teenage son. I've accomplished most of what I have set out for myself and I love my life. However, as I'm digging deeper into my 40 something years I'm definitely noticing that the joints and energy aren't holding up like they used to and getting into the car to go anywhere myself is happening less and less often.

So, here's the question that usually runs through my mind before the big day. "How can I get something without having to strain myself and use up all my energy?" The result usually ends up being that I do nothing. My poor hubby is very understanding and never complains.

One of the most valuable lessons I learned in the process of becoming a Dream Builder Transformational Life Coach is that there is an answer to every question or problem and to ask empowering questions of the universe, rather than ones that leave me feeling uninspired and disempowered. So this year, I posed the question, "How can I do something very personal to show my husband how much I love him?" I was so surprised when the perfect answer came quickly. I realized that I have files full of beautiful photos on my computer that I took and a program for making cards. Big duh moment here folks. Why didn't I think of this before? No matter,  I decided to take one of my photos and put it onto card stock and write a personal message rather than some store bought greeting.

I know it doesn't sound like a lot but I loved the creativity of the process and when I gave it to him this morning he recognized how personal it was and the love that had gone into it. As it turned out, it was also one of his favourite photos. After all, it's not about the dollars we spend or how big a gift it is. It's about the love that went into.

Happy Valentines Day! 

Deciding For Your Dream

1     "Don’t ask what the world needs, ask what makes you come alive and go do it; because what the world needs is more people who have come alive." – Howard Thurman

The first question I always ask new clients is "What would you love?" The result... usually a blank look. Many people really don't have any idea what they would love to be, do or have. They've set limits on their abundance because from the very beginning of their time on this earth they were told, in a completely loving, well intended way of course, by parents, family, friends, teachers etc, what is possible. 

     Today I challenge you to think about what you would love. What are your longings? Where is your discontent? Life, God, the Universe, whomever you see as your higher power, is seeking an ever freer, more expanded experience and expression through you. Mary Morrissey, my coaching mentor and someone I've come to admire greatly always says "some people live 90 years and some people live 1 year 90 times." It's your life and you get to choose whether it's a life created by design, ie, you make it happen, or default, ie it happens to you.

     In my coaching course, the Dream Builder, I teach proven strategies for designing and refining what you want and moving you forward, past fear, limiting beliefs and old habits and ways of thinking to create it. If you're interested in taking steps toward creating a life you would absolutely love; a life of your own design, and could use some direction and support, email me at marikavandommelen@lifemasteryinstitute.com for a complimentary strategy session. I do all my consultations and coaching by phone so distance is not a factor. Or if you are interested in learning more about what I do and live in the Lower Mainland, BC, feel free to contact me in regard to attending my free Vision Workshop at 7pm on Wednesday February 19th.

Fear: The edge of what you know

Yesterday I made a decision to set up a Meetup, a gathering of people that I would present a Vision Workshop to and create a discussion around the concepts I teach in my Dream Building coaching course.I decided on a date and time and as I pressed the confirmation button that would send this information out to the community, my FB friends and all my contacts I suddenly felt a feeling that can only be described as complete terror :). What if nobody came? What if too many people came? Do I really know this stuff well enough to present it to a group? What if the evening turned out to be a complete flop?

So what is fear anyway? It can can show up in ways such as dissuasion, ie, your mind telling you that whatever you are trying to achieve does not line up with the way you see yourself. It might sound like, "you're not smart enough." Fear can also show up as distraction, a sudden desire to clean your space or do laundry instead of what you need to do to create what you say you want. Finally, fear can show up as a physical bodily feeling like goose bumps, rapid heart beat or ....well, you get the picture :).

So, let's take a minute to ponder the idea that fear is just the edge of what you know right now; an opportunity to move beyond that, to a newer, happier, more abundant, more fully expressed version of you. Courage, after all is not doing something in the complete absence of fear. Courage is deciding for something, feeling the fear and doing it anyway.

You only get to live this life once so what would you like to be, do or have? What's on the other side of your edge of becoming?

In my coaching course, the Dream Builder, I teach proven strategies for dealing with fear and moving you forward to what you say you want. If you're interested in taking steps toward creating a life you would absolutely love, If you're tired of living the same year over and over again, or if you've tried to move forward but keep running into the same pitfalls, email me at marikavandommelen@lifemasteryinstitute.com for a complimentary strategy session. I do all my consultations and coaching by phone so distance is not a factor. Or if you are interested in learning more about what I do and live in the Lower Mainland, BC, feel free to contact me regarding my Vision Workshop on February 19th.

Transforming Your Dreams Into Reality.

Hello, my name is Marika van Dommelen and I'm a Certified DreamBuilder Coach and Motivational Speaker. I can help you design and manifest a life that's in harmony with your Soul's purpose.
 
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So What is a DreamBuilder Coach, and Why would that Interest You? 


My goal is to assist you in understanding how to rely on and believe in your own unlimited potential and power. I already know that you've experienced moments of intuitive knowing and big thinking but you may not understand that this is consciously available to you...Always.


I'm here to help you become more aware of that innate knowing and self-trust already instilled deep in your soul. I'm here to support you to move forward when the “old you” would rather give up and turn back.


I offer coaching as well as Vision Workshops, which is an opportunity for you to invite me to speak to your group about what I do and experience a little bit of what I can offer you as a Transformational Life Coach.


Right now, you're standing on the edge of your full potential. It's time to explore your true purpose and what you are truly meant to achieve. Nothing is too big for those who have the desire to move forward confidently in the direction of their greatest dreams.


To receive a complimentary Strategy Session to discover if we are a fit email me at marikavandommelen@lifemasteryinstitute.com